Comments on: The Opposite of Rape is Not Consent, the Opposite of Rape is Enthusiasm

By: Some Interesting Blogs and Articles About the Issue of Communication, Sex, and Rape « mindfulconsideration

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 22:06:22 +0000

[...] The Opposite of Rape is Not Consent, The Opposite of Rape is Consent by Megan Jordan Originally published in Hugo Schwyzer’s personal blog. [...]

By: HSaera

HSaera — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 15:12:33 +0000

http://t.co/Or1ZXk95 "The Opposite of Rape is Not Consent, the Opposite of Rape is Enthusiasm".

By: Keuka Lake Real Estate

Keuka Lake Real Estate — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 16:23:41 +0000

Your analogy is perfect. “The stoplight” and the way you describe it is really spot on. Too many times, we, as women, give the “yes” to pacify, and certainly, there is only ourselves to blame.

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By: Voicleclaib

Voicleclaib — Thu, 28 May 2009 00:53:29 +0000

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By: Maria

Maria — Sun, 24 May 2009 19:48:40 +0000

Thank you so much for this post.

By: Analogies of Feminism and Anarchism: Consent « Directionless Bones

Analogies of Feminism and Anarchism: Consent « Directionless Bones — Fri, 08 May 2009 15:14:35 +0000

[...] to passively ‘go along with’ someone else’s desire. It has been said that “the opposite of rape is not consent, it is enthusiasm“. This serves to legitimise cases where one partner does merely ‘go along with’ [...]

By: Penfold

Penfold — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 17:48:45 +0000

This essay nails it (no pun intended) especially the part about enjoying one sexual activity as exclusive but not necessarily wanting to participate in another sexual activity such as ‘taking off one’s pants’. When reading, I was thinking about my experience as a much younger woman when petting was more the norm and the man was supposed to ‘wait’ with all the pressure that entailed (perfectly described here).

But I want to go one further; I’ve found as an adult that the expectations are even stronger – any sexual contact is considered consent for full sexual contact as a natural progression. FIRST sexual contact is often considered the ‘green light’. When I have protested about this, I have been called immature, someone who leads another on and even questioned about my mental/emotional health! I’m not sure about the US but this is certainly my (not so limited) experience of British men – any sexual contact almost always means full sexual contact is expected to follow. I can’t say enough how much I appreciate and identify with Hugo’s understanding of this – it’s something I had a vague notion of but couldn’t put into words until now.

By: prudence

prudence — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 23:29:39 +0000

Hugo you are so right that the emphasis is all wrong in particular when you say the absence of a no should not be taken to mean yes. It seems imperative to me that young people should be taught that sex should not be based on how far you can push the other person – the whole concept of first, second base etc displays exactly the mentality that being pushy is ok. I don’t profess to be a great writer but I have written about my own experiences in my blog – see attached link – which I think you might find interesting

By: Fit Bottomed Girls

Fit Bottomed Girls — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 18:38:33 +0000

I’d never thought of it that way, and that’s a very fresh look on consent. You were robbed by not being included.